In this article you will learn how to let go and move forward by permitting yourself to go through this process.
Give yourself permission to feel what you feel. Let yourself be.
There are 4 four things you can do to help yourself let go and move on from the cause of it. Do these things daily until you feel you are in a better place.
In letting go, it is necessary that you accept what happened. Acceptance gives way to forgiveness and healing.
Learning to forgive yourself and accepting that you have done your part will open up a way for your healing.
Accepting what happened is a decision. This might take time for you. In my experience, I need time myself to move on from the things that no longer serve my present and future.
It is okay to feel resistance at first. This is part of the change you want to make. Let resistance come out. Acknowledge that this will pass. Every thing in our life is passing.
Accept the things that you can longer change or have. Human beings change, every living thing is continuously changing because we are alive. It is part of life.
Resist no more and accept it. Accept there is God who is bigger than you that can see and magnify the entire picture of what you are going through. There is something better for you once you let go.
Some tips on how to give yourself time to accept:
- Talk about it to a trusted friend or family. It will help you process the situation and get it off your chest.
- Journal your feelings and don’t judge whatever that comes out.
- Rest and get enough sleep. It will help your mind relax and think what you can do next.
When you don’t think about the problems for a time-being, solutions can come out.
Don’t rush and give it time that it needs. No wounds can heal in one day.
2. Let It Out.
You can be angry and you can cry. Anger is part of human emotion. You can be angry for sometime but don’t let it eat you. Just let it out.
Crying purifies our soul from sadness. Crying heals us. It restores our sense of being human. We have emotions and it makes us human to feel what we feel.
Don’t mask your feelings. Stay true to how you feel and don’t pretend you are all right when you are not.
Never suppress your feelings because it can add up. If you are not comfortable sharing yet, write your feelings down on a journal. It will help you process.
It’s good to be vulnerable in sharing your feelings with your close friends and family members. Let your loved ones know what you are going through at some point. We all need help in moving on to live a better life.
If you have to shout, go somewhere where no can be disturbed when you let it out. This is the time to express yourself and be honest with yourself. Feel yourself in this situation.
Here are a few ways on how to surrender and let go of things peacefully:
- Practice deep breathing to relax.
- Pray or do meditation by being still.
- Write everything that has been bothering you. It helps your mind detach from it and find solution if needed.
3. Do Something for Yourself.
Do something for the better or benefit of you. Make time for the things you love to do, away from your regular activities and daily routine.
Here are some tips on how to make more time for yourself to feel better:
- Schedule a time for yourself in your calendar or planner. This must be scheduled as it tells your brain that it is a priority.
- Pick up a new hobby or resurrect the hobby that you have been putting off for a while.
- Get a massage regularly.
- Indulge yourself with good foods. Your body deserves nourishment.
Every thing that you can do for yourself is not selfish. It is an act of self-care and charity to yourself. Giving to yourself is looking after your well-being.
Sick people get healed with medical treatment, proper nutrition and exercise. This is not different from emotional and mental healing. Seek medical help if you need it and don’t put it off.
We have to move away from things that damage our emotional being. Disconnect from someone who has not been a good influence to you.
We have the right to cultivate our environment. Only allow people who are good for you and not the ones who have been causing you heartaches and trouble.
Moving away from the cause of your problems help substantially in your recovery.
If you have toxic friends, it is all right to remove yourself from these harmful friendships. Don’t worry about it, you can find new friends.
Our relationships can either break or make us. We can choose the people we want for our lives and it goes the same for the career and work we choose to do.
There is freedom from disconnecting from the things that no longer serve you. Letting go and moving on becomes more possible when you remove and disassociate yourself from all the things that have been reminding you of it.
Give yourself permission to disconnect.
People and things are passing you by in this lifetime. You have got one life to live. You have got to let new things come to you. Once you detach, you will experience the freedom to create a better life.
The more you hold on to something that is hurting you, the more unhappiness it can give you. Detach and disconnect.
Don’t take things too hard on yourself. Change takes time. Again, no wounds can heal in one day.
We are all work in progress. Force yourself to forgive yourself and forgive others for yourself. Don’t bottle your emotions up.
The four things to do here are very helpful and it will equip you to move forward. Apply and practice it in your daily life. You will get there. Just take one step at a time.
We cannot change people, only ourselves. Every human being and every living thing on our planet are wired and made differently. Accept things as they are.
It all comes down on your decision to move forward. The act of making a decision would lead you to living your life differently.
You deserve to be happy and be with people who value you.
As Lao Tzu said, “Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
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